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Give more energy to what is true for you; give less energy to what is not true for you.

Here is the unifying theory for living a good life and helping the world that summarizes everything I wrote in my book How To Be Alive:

Give more energy to what is True for you; give less energy to what is not True for you.

So simple, right? Also, so gentle. Also, sometimes, so hard. In fact, all the scriptures, all the sutras, all the vedas are written just to help us do this one thing: give more energy to what is True; give less energy to what is not True. But we don’t need to read all that writing—though of course it can be helpful—because the path can clearly be found within our Selves.

Listen: In 1906, while leading the movement for the rights of ethnic Indians in South Africa, Mahatma Gandhi coined a Sanskrit term for the spiritual force that he believed lay at the root of that movement and, later, of India’s independence movement. That term is satyagraha. It comes from the words satya, meaning “truth,” and agraha, meaning “insistence” or “holding firmly to.”

So satyagraha is what Gandhi called the “soul-force” or the “love-force” that moves toward Truth. Each of us has that soul- force or love-force within us, and the person who follows it—who practices satyagraha—is called a satyagrahi. By clinging to Truth, a satyagrahi automatically moves toward his or her vision for a better life and a better world.

Give more energy to what is True for you; give less energy to what is not True for you.

“I discovered in the earliest stages,” wrote Gandhi, “that pursuit of truth did not admit of violence being inflicted on one’s opponent but that he must be weaned from error by patience and sympathy.” Therefore, the pursuit of Truth comes not by trying to change others or the world but by changing the way one reacts to others and the world—by changing oneself.

You don’t have to start a revolution. You don’t have to change everything at once. You don’t have to get down on yourself. You don’t have to force yourself. You can’t stop violence in the world by doing violence against yourself. Instead, all you have to do is begin to trust your Truth. Give energy to what is True (or loving) and starve energy from what is not True (or not loving).

So, in this moment, what is really True for you? How can you follow it? What is your next step? What can you do right now that is True?

PS Following Truth is challenging. That’s why I am recruiting a group of like-minded friends who gather by video conference once a week for 20 weeks to support each other in discovering and following their truths. Previous participants have really been helped by this. Want to be part of it? Want to know more? Click here to read about the details and apply.

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