“The sun in the sky shines everywhere, why does a cloud obscure it?” Kong-ans (koans) are word puzzles which are used in the Zen tradition of which I am a part to help us deal with the conundrums of life. If you can penetrate the conundrums presented to you by your teacher, then maybe you […]
How To Be Alive
Here is the unifying theory for living a good life and helping the world that summarizes everything I wrote in my book How To Be Alive: Give more energy to what is True for you; give less energy to what is not True for you.
We get scared that being ourselves–following our Truth–won’t get us where we want to be. But if being ourselves gets us there, then maybe that is where we *truly* want to be. So what path should you follow? What life obligations should you choose?
it turns out that, according to the science, one of the biggest predictors of whether we have potential is whether we have people around us who believe that we have potential. This post is about surrounding yourself with people who believe you will have an impact on the world.
Have you ever felt that you being truly you makes, or would make you, an outsider? What is different about you that should be celebrated? How can you bring it out in your community and use it to help others?
The mythology in our culture is that success and happiness are determined by three things: your job, your romantic partnership, and your stuff (including your house). There is only one problem with that. It’s not true. But there is one thing that, the science shows, predicts success in everything that matters–having a robust, interconnected personal community.
We are living life backwards. We put most of our efforts into the things that matter least. Why can’t we change? Because we are scared of falling through the cracks and being alone. The antidote to this fear is to find a community of people who share our values.
You can be totally successful in societal terms and have all the things while also being completely unfulfilled. You can have worked your rear-end off to get somewhere and find out it’s not really where you want to be. And THAT SUCKS. But its is easier to improve your fulfillment to success ration than you think.