it turns out that, according to the science, one of the biggest predictors of whether we have potential is whether we have people around us who believe that we have potential. This post is about surrounding yourself with people who believe you will have an impact on the world.
Have you ever felt that you being truly you makes, or would make you, an outsider? What is different about you that should be celebrated? How can you bring it out in your community and use it to help others?
The mythology in our culture is that success and happiness are determined by three things: your job, your romantic partnership, and your stuff (including your house). There is only one problem with that. It’s not true. But there is one thing that, the science shows, predicts success in everything that matters–having a robust, interconnected personal community.
I kept quitting all my life because I had based my choices on who I thought I should be and what I thought I should do. But what if it’s possible to be exactly who you are and help the world in exactly the way it needs to be helped, right now? That’s the life I want.
We are living life backwards. We put most of our efforts into the things that matter least. Why can’t we change? Because we are scared of falling through the cracks and being alone. The antidote to this fear is to find a community of people who share our values.
You can be totally successful in societal terms and have all the things while also being completely unfulfilled. You can have worked your rear-end off to get somewhere and find out it’s not really where you want to be. And THAT SUCKS. But its is easier to improve your fulfillment to success ration than you think.
We get stopped, so many of us, because we don’t trust ourselves. We don’t trust our own natures to guide us. Instead, we keep our focus on our desires and goals and then get frightened we won’t get them. Concentrating on our worries, we ignore the constant guidance given to us in each moment. We look for answers that are already revealed, except that we don’t trust them. This post is about what we can do.
What we are supposed to want is three things: The right job, the right relationship, and the right possessions. But is that really success in our own lives? And does it make for a better world? If not, then how can we know what should where we should be heading?