For so long, in the cultural discourse, there has been this idea that, for women to advance as men do, women just need to be more assertive–to act more as men act. The question I have always had is: Why would women want to advance as men do? I mean, of course, women want equal pay and equal […]
Relationships, Family and Friendship
On The Night Mom Died
I call this one, “Full Moon On The Water On The Night My Mom Died.”
Eulogy To My Mom
Here is a poem that comes from the funeral ceremony of the Zen tradition of which I am a part. It is called The Human Route Coming empty-handed, going empty-handed – that is human.When you are born, where do you come from?When you die, where do you go?Life is like a floating cloud which appears.Death […]
After Mom’s Death
So when my mom was dying, I’d go and visit her in the morning and then take a break and then go visit her in the afternoon again. One day, I was listening to Bonnie Raitt I Can’t Make You Love Me in the car on the way back to her hospital bed. I got […]
Conversation With My Dying Mom
Visiting my mom, she didn’t say much when I arrived. She seemed to want to doze. I got my computer out to pay her bills while she napped. Then I thought twice. I thought, before I go to bill paying, I’d ask if there was anything she needed to discuss. “Yes,” she said, suddenly alert. […]
Success In What Actually Matters
The mythology in our culture is that success and happiness are determined by three things: your job, your romantic partnership, and your stuff (including your house). There is only one problem with that. It’s not true. But there is one thing that, the science shows, predicts success in everything that matters–having a robust, interconnected personal community.
Want Friends To Hold You To Those 2018 Resolutions?
What if you had a group of friends who refused to let you fail to achieve your vision for 2018 or any other time? With this blog post, I wanted to help you start that kind of group–a mastermind group–or, if you would prefer, to enroll in my exclusive, facilitated How To Be Alive Mastermind Group.
Choose The Romantic Partner Who Will Make The Best Ex
Rather than choose partners for whether or not they will stay with you forever (call me a cynic–I assume they won’t), choose them according to what kind of a friend and family member they will be once the partnership is over. How committed will they be to your well-being in the really long term?