True fact: A huge body of research shows that we contribute more to our individual and world happiness when we are interconnected with and contribute to larger groups of people. Here are some directions for building or strengthening a really cool, individualized version of your own personal community.
How To Be Alive
In moving towards a values oriented life, don’t worry about fixing the whole world. Don’t worry about your whole life. Instead, think about the tiny relationships with the world that make up your life. One at a time, you can change those relationships, and one day you will wake up and find yourself living a better life in a better personal world.
So many of us wish we were doing something else a lot of the time. In part, that is the human condition. But in part, it is because the world is changing and a lot of us haven’t yet figured out how to adapt. I thought I would tell you how I have dealt with the “wish I were doing something else” feeling and give you a concrete tip for healing that feeling for RIGHT NOW.
Rather than choose partners for whether or not they will stay with you forever (call me a cynic–I assume they won’t), choose them according to what kind of a friend and family member they will be once the partnership is over. How committed will they be to your well-being in the really long term?
There are so many false definitions of the Good Life. But mine is Ease + Importance. Ease = Living your own life without struggle. Importance = Helping others to live their lives without struggle.
Sometimes we run so fast on the work-to-spend treadmill that we never stop to ask what we want the money, stuff, and fame for. By listing what we hope to get from them, we may discover a path towards getting our needs met more directly.
How to step away from the old and poisonous stories we tell ourselves that limit our ability to fix our lives and help the world.
So many of us are looking for ways to help this suffering world–happily and safely. For most, the challenge seems to be how to help in ways they feel meaningful. On the other hand, there are also many, many activists, social workers, and others who have found ways to help, but are missing out on the happily and safely part. So, how do we help the world while still having a good life for ourselves?